About Stephen Bradshaw

I help couples break the cycle they’re stuck in, and give them the tools to never get stuck there again.

Founder of Rebooting Relationships. Diploma-qualified Professional Coach. Author of Mindset Dad. Specialist in couples and relationships, full stop.

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I’m Stephen Bradshaw, the founder of Rebooting Relationships. I work with couples all day, every day, it’s not a side of what I do, it’s the whole of what I do. That specialist focus is the thing most couples tell me they were looking for and couldn’t find anywhere else.

Most of the couples I work with have tried something before they get to me. They’ve read the books. They’ve watched the videos. They’ve had the tough conversations that went in circles. Some have tried traditional counselling and found it frustrating, lots of open questions, lots of unpicking the past, but no actual tools they could take home and use on a Tuesday night when the same argument starts again.

“That’s the gap I built my practice around.”

What Rebooting Relationships is (and isn’t)

Coaching, not therapy. I’m listed as a counsellor on Google because that’s the category most people search for, but what I actually do is closer to a structured coaching programme.

Solution-focused

We look at where you are now and where you want to get to, not a decade of childhood analysis.

Education & empowerment

I teach you the psychological models behind what’s happening so you can see the pattern, name it, and change it.

Science-based frameworks

My methodology draws on proven psychological structures for real-world impact.

Attachment Theory
Transactional Analysis
Emotional Regulation
Trigger & Grounding work
Imago & Gottman frameworks

Practical tools

Every session gives you something practical to take away and use this week.

Bespoke, not boxed

Every programme is built around what your specific relationship needs, not a template.

I’m not a CBT practitioner, and I don’t offer EMDR or trauma therapy. If that’s what you need, I’ll tell you honestly and point you elsewhere. What I’m specialist in is helping committed couples who are stuck in a cycle they can’t break from the inside.

Couple having a calm honest conversation at home

Why I do this work

“I’ve watched hundreds of couples who were certain their relationship was over, walk out the other side feeling like they were on the same team again.”

My story

I’ve been where you are

Before I tell you about qualifications and methodology, I want to tell you something more important.

In 2016, after our son turned one, I felt adrift. Parenthood hit Nikki and me hard. An unfortunate cocktail of postnatal depression and exhaustion led us to fall into a loop of miscommunication and distance.

It was a really tough time. I felt I was failing as a husband and as the dad I wanted to be. My instinctive reaction was to shut down emotionally, and my withdrawal spiked anxiety, the trust thinned, and we both wondered about our future.

It was December 2016 that I found coaching and began studying in-depth relationship dynamics and the neuroscience of behaviour change. Seeing the story in my head for what it was transformed how I showed up. Nikki did her own work too, and together we used science-based tools to rebuild support, appreciation, and love.

By 2017, we felt realigned and like a team again. Nearly 10 years on, with two children, I’m proud to say that we enjoy our relationship every day. We still have ups and downs, but there’s security: we’re in it together.

I share this because I want you to know two things: that we all feel lost in love at times, and that change is always possible.

~ Steve

Qualifications and experience

Diploma-qualified Professional Coach with 20+ years of relevant skills, qualifications and experience.

Primary qualification

Diploma in Professional Coaching, The Coaching Academy.

CPD

Positive Intelligence
The Chimp Theory
The Brain Academy
Irene Lyon (trauma & stress)

Additional study

Imago Therapy
The Gottman Institute
Attachment Theory

Published author of Mindset Dad (2020).

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How I’m different from traditional counselling

I get asked this a lot, especially by couples who’ve tried Relate or individual therapy and come away frustrated.

Traditional counselling often focuses on the past. Open-ended questions, unpicking childhood. Some of that has value, but on its own it rarely gives couples the tools to change what’s happening right now.
General counsellors see couples occasionally. I work with couples exclusively. That specialist focus has let me develop structures with immediate impact.
Talking alone isn’t enough. What unlocks change is being given the framework that explains exactly what’s happening between you. Once you’ve seen the pattern, you can’t un-see it.

“No wishy washy indirect nonsense. He teaches theory and how to implement it and use it to self reflect.”
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Who I work with

The couples who get the most from working with me tend to share a few things in common.

Long-term couples

Often 15+ years in. Parents juggling young children and demanding careers. Love each other but don’t feel connected. Stuck in the same argument or the same silence.

Individuals working alone

Whose partner won’t come to sessions, or who want to start the work alone. One person shifting how they show up has a real impact on the whole dynamic.

Engaged & newlyweds

Preparing for marriage, or blindsided by the first year. Setting up the right communication tools before the pressures of married life and children arrive.

Intercultural couples

Navigating two sets of family expectations, religion, parenting and gender-role differences. Workable challenges with the same frameworks, applied to your situation.

Couples after an incident

After an incident of infidelity, broken trust, or a crisis. Real recovery is possible when both people are committed.

Committed people

The common thread is commitment. If both of you (or one of you working alone) are genuinely ready to do the work, the programme works.

What happens next

The next step is a discovery call. A conversation, not a sales pitch. We work out together whether I’m the right fit for you.